Still On Hiatus but about Missing Hairs

[hat_plays_sims]

I have gotten your comments and PMs, everybody, but I'm in the 'crunch time' portion of my Usual Summer Simming Hiatus-- my big miniature show is next weekend and the prep is extra-"fun" this year what with my sister, her husband, their toddler, their pets, and all their stuff moved in and underfoot. So, blanket response to everything about missing hairs:

1. The MT Cakestore hairs get pulled down a LOT, I don't know why.
2. Yes, I have backups. I have triple backups. I have a passport drive full of backups.
3. I'll fix the links but I don't have time to do so right now.
4. Yes, I probably should switch to Sims File Share.
5. Yes, if you have your own copies of hairs people are looking for, feel free to share them while Mediafire is being Mediafire.
6. No, further comments as to which files are down probably will not help.

I hate to sound prickly but I'm on hiatus, I will be on hiatus until at least the middle of September and possibly until early October, the way things are going. I never have time to Sim in the summer and this year hasn't been a great year for 'things Hat can do for fun' since February.

Comments

(frozen) Re: I need your help

[(Anonymous)]

First off, My Lady Hat, I deeply apologize for the timing of my message. (I am a "she," by the way). That was no chain letter. It was a warning bulletin. I was banished on the 12th, just 3 days after the election. I understand that a lot of people out there on both sides were put through a lot of stress during this time. I did not know about your condition or what state of mind you were in, so there was no way I could have known how you would react to my post. I didn't even know you had replied, because I forgot that I never sent you my e-mail.

I wasn't banished for bigotry or being racist. I was banished because I went to Stephanie's website and learned some very unflattering things about Sunni. You can read the story here for yourself: http://stephsimail.wixsite.com/proudlybanished

I'm not going to force you to believe or not believe what she says, but I know that you are at least curious. Use your own judgement when reading this. I made the mistake of trusting someone I shouldn't have at the Keep, telling them my reaction to the story, and they betrayed me. Now if you ask Stephanie, she really does have receipts to back it up. All I've got are angry PMs that I managed to snatch before being thrown off. Stephanie is not a rule-breaker. She is a kind and decent person, and she's well-known in the Sims community. If anyone is to accuse her of being a troll or a monster, that person is lying.

I came to you because I thought you might understand. You seemed like a nice, talented, decent person with a wicked sense of humor. I thought perhaps, seeing as you're part of this community and have contributed so much, you'd understand what kind of a shock and cruel jolt it is when someone cuts you off from that. Your hairs and clothes are on my Pinterest boards: https://www.pinterest.com/ladyaqua7351/ Why would they be on there if I did not admire your work? It's not flattery, I'm just being honest.

I've met some other people who were banished too, people who were good, honest modders and found out things about Sunni that she would prefer the Sims community not know about her. She even banished their friends to keep them quiet. She banished Stephanie's husband, just because he was married to her. He barely said anything, and did nothing to earn that.

Please consider that when you read this. I'm no bully. In fact, hardly anyone has listened to me, save for those who also have been banished. It is Sunni and her friends who bullied ME.

I know you have worked with her for who knows how long, but how well do you know her really? Have you actually lived with her? Have you spoken to those close to her? How well do you really know her? I got to know her more than I liked, and this was after years of being ignored.

If you choose not to listen, to keep believing I'm a liar and a rule-breaker who deserved what she got, then I'll leave you alone. I won't waste time with someone who refuses to believe. But if you do, I'll let you learn more.

(frozen) Re: I need your help

[hat_plays_sims]

I can only imagine how often you must have refreshed your email and checked your spam filter, wondering if I'd ever reply to you, especially since it took you two months to see if I'd responded in the same format you chose. You still haven't left your email, but I don't know you, so I'm not having a conversation with you where no one else can see it.

You also didn't bring receipts, not so much as a 'well, SHE said, then I said.' You want me to put in the effort to verify vague claims you're making, rather than making a convincing argument yourself. And as for why I ask for proof, for even anecdotal evidence? You came into my space and called another woman cruel, wrathful, selfish, lazy, vindictive, manipulative, nasty, untrustworthy, and a control freak. I am not the sort of person who sees that laundry list of insults and goes "Oh dear! Well if you say so it must be true." You want me to believe all that crap, ableism aside, then you have to prove it.

I honestly thought you'd taken one look at my reply, figured out that you weren't going to get your validation here, and weren't coming back. I was not sad.

This is not my circus. These are not my monkeys.

Sunni and I are not what you'd call bosom companions. We've talked many times, almost always about Sims, because we've been in similar circles of the same community for the last seven and a half years. I think maybe she offered well-wishes when my cat was sick, or later condolences after she died. Neither of us knows the other particularly well; I know Sunni primarily through her body of work and what posts of hers I've read, and she knows me basically the same way. I'm emotionally closer to the waitstaff at my favorite restaurant than I am with Sunni, and she only knows as much about me as literally anyone else who reads this blog.

I have no illusions as to why you chose to contact me here rather than on Garden of Shadows or Mod the Sims. There are no moderators here, no one to buffer between you and me, and you can make your emotional appeals without fear of modly reprisal-- I'm the sole owner and operator of this blog, responsible for its content and policing its comments, and if you approach me here I have to deal with you myself.

So this is me dealing with you myself.

I don't care that you got banned from Plumb Bob Keep. I don't care that Stephanie got banned, or that Sophie-David got banned. I don't care what Sunni does on her own website, because it's her own website, and anyone unhappy at the Keep has the ability to make their own website. Not my circus, not my monkeys.

I don't believe you about why you got banned, because your attempts at emotional manipulation are laughably transparent. You're trying to frame the circumstances of your ban as a tantalizing mystery, a secret you're offering to let me in on-- a secret you expect me to want to be in on. You want me to sympathize with you, with Stephanie, with Sophie-David, before you'll go into any kind of detail about your version of events. It's a transparent grab for conversational high ground, to get me to make an emotional investment before hearing "facts" that you don't seem likely to be able to spin in your favor otherwise. You're even hedging your bets by saying you "trusted the wrong person" but refusing to state that person's name. Heaven forbid you risk me being on speaking terms with them, able to verify your claims.

I'm not falling for it. If you had tea you'd spill it. You don't want to tell me anything concrete until you're sure I'll be on your side-- which probably means you don't actually believe you were in the right.

You are over-reacting to being banned from a messageboard. Stephanie is over-reacting to being banned from a messageboard by an order of magnitude.

Your persistent use of pseudo-Medieval language (I am not your lady and 'banished' is a cutesy term for 'permanently banned' that only the Keep uses) is creeping me the fuck out. This is not a roleplay blog.

Your attempted apology was incomplete, insincere, half-assed, padded with false equivalencies, and I don't believe you're actually sorry you rode in here on Trump's coattails and used a dehumanizing term for someone with control issues, you're just sorry I got mad at you for it. Apology not accepted.

Keep your monkeys off my blog.

(frozen) Re: I need your help

[(Anonymous)]

I actually didn't know you had replied. I didn't find out until yesterday, when I was googling something else. I have been in contact with better quality people than you. Do not expect me to come back to this snake pit, for all I have found is not a high-quality Sims modder, but a hateful and snarling bulldog.

Forgive me for assuming you were a nice, understanding, and thoughtful person. You just proved that you aren't and showed a shining example as to why you and Sunni get along so well. You two would be peas in a pod.

You actually think I'm some kind of conniving, manipulative schemer? What kind of crap have your friends been feeding you? Manipula-loops? I'd rather DIE than run that POS kingdom of Sunni's. And she doesn't need my help in killing the place, she's doing that all by herself by banishing so many people. A lot of people have noticed the site has been slowly imploding in on itself, and the only place your friend needs to look to see who's responsible for that is the mirror and her two minions, Fractured Moonlight and Celestial Spider.

I didn't know I could talk to you on GoS or MTS2. I don't fear Moderators of those places, considering they are not as conniving and selfish as the people at the Cursed Keep.

I hope you eventually learn what is driving that hate inside you, and seek professional help in dealing with it before something bad happens to you.

I've actually stayed away from mentioning politics directly, but since these are my last words on this shit site, I'll make it perfectly clear that I take great pleasure in watching REAL AMERICANS thwart your jack-ass party's attempts at a communist, leftist coup and crushing America underfoot. I'm GLAD your bitch queen Hillary didn't win, and that Trump's going to save our nation. It's amazing how childish and vicious people like you can get when your own evil candidate doesn't win an election they so THOUGHT was in the bag. It's payback after what your false god on Capitol hill did to the rest of America, selling us down the river like that for 8 years. You didn't see me throwing childish tantrums after the '08 and '12 elections. I stewed quietly for a bit and then got along with my life. And that is exactly what I'm going to do now, rather than waste it on a pathetic creep like you.

Keep throwing poo, little monkey. It's not gonna change anything, and I'm gonna take great pleasure in watching President Trump get sworn in on Friday.

It's astonishing to learn that the almighty Hat is NOT so almighty, and I greatly pity you.

Good luck, and go pound sand.