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hat_plays_simsLast night, I got an anonymous post from someone who I thought had given up on convincing me to help them stir up trouble, or support them in their trouble, or-- honestly I'm not sure what they thought they were doing, but their post read like a list of warning signs for "If he does this, this, and that, run for the hills, you probably won't get out of this relationship alive."
Eventually, after I made it clear that I was not buying what the anon was selling (look, you send me nine paragraphs of trying to convince me to help you tear down another woman, and I'm not going to be nice to you, not even right out of the gate, sorry not sorry as the kids these days say), I got a nice little explosion wherein the anon informed me that they're glad Trump won because he's a Real American, that they're glad my 'bitch queen' Hillary lost, compared President Obama to a false god and thus, me to a worshiper of false gods (that gets you sent to Hell, doesn't it?), and called me a couple of names that were, frankly, a step down from the delicate implication of breaking an Old Testament commandment.
I was shaky when I made last night's post, and I said some stuff that was funny in my head, but I think it was 'funny in my head' in more of an adrenaline-crash 'oh my god did they seriously end what could've been a threat to my life by calling me a little monkey?' way than actually being funny. So, having had some time to think-- and re-read, and a long comment to answer, here's what I actually want to say to anyone still reading or following this blog:
When you start researching the Middle Ages-- and definitely when you start researching Vikings-- you learn pretty quickly that there are two kinds of hobbyist Medievalists.
There are the people who want to know what things were like in as much nitty-gritty detail as possible, especially as might pertain to whatever special area of history tickles their fancy. What sort of seams were on a houpelande? How heavy was a hauberk? Just how much smaller was a Medieval ox than a modern steer? Why didn't Saxons eat chicken eggs if they ate chickens? What was the Danelaw? If we don't actually know what apron dresses looked like, why do all the reenactors wear them the same way? Were there any black people in Medieval England?
Then there are the people who find the Middle Ages fascinating because they haven't, and don't intend to, learn about it beyond Victorian revisionism of the period. They want to keep reading about Europe, before the Age of Sail, before the purchase of the first African slave or acceptance of the first brownish refugee, when the whole continent was white people. The men were white, and they were strong Christian white men who kept their families in line with a firm hand. The women were white and silent (if they knew what was good for them). The children were white and obedient. The kings were white, and the good kings were tall, good-looking men who kicked Saracen ass for the glory of Christendom, while the bad kings were short, misshapen men who murdered little children or overtaxed therich barons good free men of England, and always got their comeuppance in the end.
And it can be hard to know who's who. The second group sounds a lot like the first when you're talking about types of shoes or the worst jobs in a Medieval castle. And the second type often thinks that, because the first type is just as interested in the trappings of the Middle Ages as they are, the first type is just as white supremacist, too.
This can get particularly troublesome lately, because the incoming American presidential administration pretty much shares those views of a totally white, totally Christian, totally heterosexual utopia enforced by violence and the fear of violence.
I am a white person; I have white nonsense to unlearn (I'm working on it, it's a process). I'm also mentally ill, queer, and a cis woman.
This blog is a zero-tolerance zone for white supremacists, Neo-Nazis, fascists, and supporters of such. Anyone who stands for Donald Trump stands for putting my life* in legalized jeopardy, and is cordially invited to fuck right off my blog and unfollow me forever. I will not welcome debate on this topic. I will not agree to disagree. On ne passe pas.
Anonymous comments are currently screened, but still allowed. OpenID is still allowed, and Dreamwidth (although not busy) is free to join just in case some asshat ruins both anonymous commenting and OpenID for everyone. Disruptive comments will be frozen or deleted at my sole discretion.
*And the lives of a shitload of other Americans who happen to be a little browner or a little queerer or a little less Christian than the rest, but if I can't make them care about what happens to me through the content I've made, then I can't make them care about people they don't know, unfortunately.
99% of this blog will always be Sims related, history-related, or state-of-the-Hat posts explaining stuff that's affecting my ability to Sim or history or Sim History. Sorry for the disruption. Unless you're a white supremacist or white-supremacist-adjacent, in which case I'm not sorry about anything and I hope you step on a Lego. In bare feet, in the middle of the night, while you have a full bladder.
Original post below, it's terrible but it feels dishonest to just delete it.
This is a very petty post.
Hello everyone! Tonight I bring you a cheerful message.
Paradox07 is not on my side. Of anything. Apparently.
I don't know if she's decided to clamber unprompted onto anyone else's personal sites waving a laundry list of insults in Sunni's general direction, demanding help spreading word that a website administrator is a tyrant, but hey, that's how she came to mine, and now you get to be prepared in case she comes into yours. If she already visited you, now you know what happens when she's confronted, and that you're not the only person she's approached. (Was I defensive? Yes. I will always be defensive if your opening statement to me is to baselessly rip the hell out of another woman's character, because I will always be wondering, "And what do you think about me?")
Do not go out of your way to bother Paradox07, please. She's not worth the words I used on her; she's definitely not worth your time.
I'm making this post, and making an example of Paradox07, to say that if your politics are as Trumpist as hers, you are cordially invited to unfollow me forever. I am neither heterosexual nor neurotypical; Friday's regime change means I spend the next four years literally afraid for my life and bodily autonomy. I do not create content for neo-Nazis, neo-Nazi supporters, or people who think I deserve to live in terror.
Anonymous comments are going to be screened for a while, I think. OpenID is still available.
Eventually, after I made it clear that I was not buying what the anon was selling (look, you send me nine paragraphs of trying to convince me to help you tear down another woman, and I'm not going to be nice to you, not even right out of the gate, sorry not sorry as the kids these days say), I got a nice little explosion wherein the anon informed me that they're glad Trump won because he's a Real American, that they're glad my 'bitch queen' Hillary lost, compared President Obama to a false god and thus, me to a worshiper of false gods (that gets you sent to Hell, doesn't it?), and called me a couple of names that were, frankly, a step down from the delicate implication of breaking an Old Testament commandment.
I was shaky when I made last night's post, and I said some stuff that was funny in my head, but I think it was 'funny in my head' in more of an adrenaline-crash 'oh my god did they seriously end what could've been a threat to my life by calling me a little monkey?' way than actually being funny. So, having had some time to think-- and re-read, and a long comment to answer, here's what I actually want to say to anyone still reading or following this blog:
When you start researching the Middle Ages-- and definitely when you start researching Vikings-- you learn pretty quickly that there are two kinds of hobbyist Medievalists.
There are the people who want to know what things were like in as much nitty-gritty detail as possible, especially as might pertain to whatever special area of history tickles their fancy. What sort of seams were on a houpelande? How heavy was a hauberk? Just how much smaller was a Medieval ox than a modern steer? Why didn't Saxons eat chicken eggs if they ate chickens? What was the Danelaw? If we don't actually know what apron dresses looked like, why do all the reenactors wear them the same way? Were there any black people in Medieval England?
Then there are the people who find the Middle Ages fascinating because they haven't, and don't intend to, learn about it beyond Victorian revisionism of the period. They want to keep reading about Europe, before the Age of Sail, before the purchase of the first African slave or acceptance of the first brownish refugee, when the whole continent was white people. The men were white, and they were strong Christian white men who kept their families in line with a firm hand. The women were white and silent (if they knew what was good for them). The children were white and obedient. The kings were white, and the good kings were tall, good-looking men who kicked Saracen ass for the glory of Christendom, while the bad kings were short, misshapen men who murdered little children or overtaxed the
And it can be hard to know who's who. The second group sounds a lot like the first when you're talking about types of shoes or the worst jobs in a Medieval castle. And the second type often thinks that, because the first type is just as interested in the trappings of the Middle Ages as they are, the first type is just as white supremacist, too.
This can get particularly troublesome lately, because the incoming American presidential administration pretty much shares those views of a totally white, totally Christian, totally heterosexual utopia enforced by violence and the fear of violence.
I am a white person; I have white nonsense to unlearn (I'm working on it, it's a process). I'm also mentally ill, queer, and a cis woman.
This blog is a zero-tolerance zone for white supremacists, Neo-Nazis, fascists, and supporters of such. Anyone who stands for Donald Trump stands for putting my life* in legalized jeopardy, and is cordially invited to fuck right off my blog and unfollow me forever. I will not welcome debate on this topic. I will not agree to disagree. On ne passe pas.
Anonymous comments are currently screened, but still allowed. OpenID is still allowed, and Dreamwidth (although not busy) is free to join just in case some asshat ruins both anonymous commenting and OpenID for everyone. Disruptive comments will be frozen or deleted at my sole discretion.
*And the lives of a shitload of other Americans who happen to be a little browner or a little queerer or a little less Christian than the rest, but if I can't make them care about what happens to me through the content I've made, then I can't make them care about people they don't know, unfortunately.
99% of this blog will always be Sims related, history-related, or state-of-the-Hat posts explaining stuff that's affecting my ability to Sim or history or Sim History. Sorry for the disruption. Unless you're a white supremacist or white-supremacist-adjacent, in which case I'm not sorry about anything and I hope you step on a Lego. In bare feet, in the middle of the night, while you have a full bladder.
Original post below, it's terrible but it feels dishonest to just delete it.
This is a very petty post.
Hello everyone! Tonight I bring you a cheerful message.
Paradox07 is not on my side. Of anything. Apparently.
I don't know if she's decided to clamber unprompted onto anyone else's personal sites waving a laundry list of insults in Sunni's general direction, demanding help spreading word that a website administrator is a tyrant, but hey, that's how she came to mine, and now you get to be prepared in case she comes into yours. If she already visited you, now you know what happens when she's confronted, and that you're not the only person she's approached. (Was I defensive? Yes. I will always be defensive if your opening statement to me is to baselessly rip the hell out of another woman's character, because I will always be wondering, "And what do you think about me?")
Do not go out of your way to bother Paradox07, please. She's not worth the words I used on her; she's definitely not worth your time.
I'm making this post, and making an example of Paradox07, to say that if your politics are as Trumpist as hers, you are cordially invited to unfollow me forever. I am neither heterosexual nor neurotypical; Friday's regime change means I spend the next four years literally afraid for my life and bodily autonomy. I do not create content for neo-Nazis, neo-Nazi supporters, or people who think I deserve to live in terror.
Anonymous comments are going to be screened for a while, I think. OpenID is still available.
Oh GOD this is long, you were prepared for a novella, right?
Date: 2017-01-19 11:58 am (UTC)Well, I've had a couple hours to think about your comment, and although parts of it have left me kind of shaky-- and the opening is political-- I think I'm ready to answer.
So let me start with the political situation in America right now. I consider it important background information, important context to Paradox07's last comment and my post above, but I also sort of feel like... expat or not, you deserve to know this stuff. I mean, you can skip this if you really want-- ctrl+f on down to 'this is not normal' if you just want the reason I tried to make a 'Nazis and Nazi supporters, fuck off' post on a Sims blog. Just let me answer the dog shit thing with: If Hillary Clinton in the 2016 campaign is equivalent to flavored dog shit, then Donald Trump is better compared to the Elephant's Foot in Chernobyl. Licking either one is not without consequence, but the differences between those consequences are dire.
(go on and start skipping now if you want.)
Donald Trump is, for Americans, not the biggest threat in the Trump administration. Trump is a reality TV star; he's happy as a clam as long as he's getting any kind of attention whatsoever. The trouble comes in around his supporters and the more competent politicians he's surrounded himself with. His political partner, Mike Pence, believes in conversion therapy as a valid treatment for anyone who is not heterosexual, and he would like to divert government funding away from American HIV/AIDS treatment research. Trump's pick for Secretary of Education sees nothing wrong with child labor and thinks literacy isn't a right. His chief strategist runs the world's top white supremacist "news" website.
Hate crimes have increased exponentially since election day, generally punctuated with the exact sort of 'we're gonna have a REAL AMERICAN in the White House now!' screed that Paradox07 spewed at me last night. Even in the most liberal areas of the country, Jewish community centers are facing bomb scares. (All hoaxes so far, but I suspect this is an engineered Boy Who Cried Wolf tactic; eventually, when response times grow lax because 'it's never a real bomb,' the explosions will start.)
I am legitimately afraid that the upcoming administration will put forward, or try to put forward, legislation that re-classifies my sexual orientation as a mental illness treatable only by institutionalization, electro-convulsive therapy, and "corrective" rape, or make it possible for relatives who believe such to gain power of attorney over me due to my depression-- to say absolutely nothing about my fears for American POC, Jewish Americans, and Muslim Americans.
And okay, fine, so American Democracy is always a little bit of a circus, but this is not normal. It's terrifying. I'm happy that you're somewhere safe in a position where American politics don't affect you and yours, but I'm not. And saying that I don't make Sims content for anyone who supports the incoming regime feels like a very small thing for me to do, but I stand by it.
... I may reword it, that's a shaky-ass post I made up there, but I stand by the sentiment.
I'm very glad you complied with the unnamed Keeper-with-PTSD's request for a more visible content warning even if it didn't turn out the way you hoped it would. I'm sorry you lost an avenue for sharing your adult content; I know there are people who want that content for their games who aren't comfortable with places like InSim Adult or Back Alley Sims for whatever reason. I hope they find your sites. I appreciate you sharing the story of why you no longer post at the Keep, and I'm afraid mine is way less interesting.
I feel like I fit in, in terms of personality, better at Garden of Shadows than Plumb Bob Keep, and it's a lot easier for me to limit myself to one messageboard than split my time between two. This means I do most of my content-sharing right here on Dreamwidth, but as it's an easy site to manage and edit, I'm fine with that.
As for the divisiveness... Okay, I really should edit my post-- I meant the 'not on my side' comment with my tongue firmly in cheek, but I did not do as good a job as I should've making the sarcasm come through. (The joke was supposed to be about how hard Paradox07 was trying to get me on her side and then metaphorically shoving me off of it when she realized I wasn't buying what she was selling. It was funny in my head, but I think maybe it was funny in my head in an adrenaline-crash 'haha oh my god did she just call me a monkey?' way.)
Anyway.
I've been active, to varying degrees and in varying fandoms, on the internet since... maybe 1999? That's at the very earliest, I think the first messageboard I joined was in 2001; it was an Aladdin fansite. So, fifteen, sixteen years, anyway-- certainly not as long as some, but long enough to learn what it looks like when someone is trying to start trouble. Not just drama, drama is 'oh my god do you KNOW what they SAID, did you see the thing!' and gathering together to mock Reylo shippers. I mean trouble.
Paradox07 sent me a nine-paragraph rant trying to discredit a woman in a position of (very) relative power. Those nine paragraphs were packed with insults, but were light on verifiable detail and heavy on room for Paradox07 to say 'Well, of course if you asked Sunni, she would say that, she's obviously lying to you.' (Why would the administration of a niche-interest Sims 2 board have more to do with activity slowing down than the releases of Sims 3 and Sims 4? How would Paradox07 know that Sunni was getting tired of Plumb Bob Keep? If I ask Sunni and she says yes, Paradox07 is right; if I ask and Sunni says no, Paradox07 calls Sunni's honesty into question.)
Nine paragraphs of 'trust me, the absolute stranger hurling insults at someone you don't know well but have known-not-well for seven years.'
I admit I figured my long-winded variation on the theme of pics or it didn't happen had convinced her that she wasn't going to get validation (or even diplomacy) here, because she didn't reply for two months. I was very wrong, so I shut her down again, far less ambiguously. Was I mean last night? Yeah, I admit I was, and honestly not as mean as I could've been (I told her I don't care about her ban, told her the way she called me 'My Lady' was creepy, and I used the phrase 'not my circus, not my monkeys' a couple of times trying to drive home how much the Keep isn't my home, playground, or business), but--
Look.
For me, this is not about Sunni, or the Keep, or StephSim and Sophie-David, although their names keep getting dragged into it. I literally hardly know Sunni in any meaningful way. I'm not defending her or her moderating decisions except to say that I support her right to run her website in the fashion that best pleases her. I support every webmaster's right to do that.
For me, this is about the way Paradox07's posts come off like a checklist of tactics an abuser may use to gain, isolate, or control a victim:
"... suffer [her] cruelty..."
"... yet another of despot..."
"... suffer her wrath..."
" You will only experience heartbreak in the future down the road unless you do exactly what their "queen" says."
"She is a selfish, lazy, vindictive webmaster who only cares about herself, manipulates others to do her bidding, and she gets nasty with anyone who tries thinking outside her little box."
"[She] loves control, and despises those who are not followers."
"She's a control freak." (this is ableist language and I got mad about it; we ALL have control issues in the Sims 2 community and I don't hold with making fun of mental illness)
"She didn't like me because I don't think along the same lines she does, and she was looking for an excuse to be rid of me."
"Again, do not put any trust to [her], do not associate with her or her friends..." (because if I'm not-friends with the target's friends, any mutual friends we have are forced to choose sides)
"Her site can read IP addresses, so there's no point in trying to spy on her."
"I did not know about your condition or what state of mind you were in, so there was no way I could have known how you would react to my post." (adding this to an apology destroys the apology; this wasn't 'I'm sorry, that was uncalled for' but 'shit, if I'd known YOU were crazy, I would've chosen my words more carefully.' Not sorry she said it, but sorry I got mad.)
"... I know that you are at least curious."
"It's not flattery, I'm just being honest."
"She even banished their friends to keep them quiet."
"I'm no bully. In fact, hardly anyone has listened to me, save for those who also have been banished. It is [she] and her friends who bullied ME."
"... but how well do you know her really? Have you actually lived with her? Have you spoken to those close to her? How well do you really know her?" (gaslighting; trying to make me doubt years of my own perceptions)
"... I take great pleasure in watching REAL AMERICANS thwart..."
"I'm GLAD your bitch queen Hillary didn't win..."
"... your false god on Capitol hill..."
"... waste it on a pathetic creep like you."
"Keep throwing poo, little monkey."
(That's all direct quotes, you can go read the thread if you want-- I froze it, I didn't delete it.)
This is about a stranger coming onto my blog while I was still on hiatus from Sims, viciously insulting a woman in basically every way short of involving profanity, trying to incite me to anger for her sake-- or at least to sympathy for her cause-- using absolutely textbook abusive tactics (long parenthetical incoming: the claim that she's not trying to bully her target but that her target the bully instead is used to claim the mantle of victim for the abuser, deflecting suspicion from even their actual victims; trying to remove me as a potential avenue of support for her target, trying to use or get me to use whatever pull I have among Medieval Simmers to isolate her target from other potential avenues of support, is a classic tactic for making sure a victim has no one to reach out to, and a way to 'win' a breakup (even a friend breakup) by 'getting all the friends in the divorce'; trying to make me doubt my own perceptions of her target is called gaslighting, and it's a tactic that's especially gross to use against the mentally ill-- we're more inclined to go "Okay was that legit or was that my anxiety talking?" and gaslighting can be used to make us dependent on the person saying "Are you really sure? Like, super-sure? Because that's not how I remember it,"), and finally exploding when it became absolutely clear that she wasn't winning me over. Or that I didn't care about her ban. Or that I wouldn't become somebody's enemy for her sake. Whatever her motive, the political and personal insults only came out when she finally realized she couldn't use me for her purposes.
I'm not even giving her the benefit of the doubt and saying maybe she didn't know how she was coming off, not at this point. If any of that had been subconscious rather than a concentrated effort to manipulate me into giving her whatever it was she wanted from me, she would have taken "I don't care, you're not going to convince me to care, it's been two months and I was glad you were gone, it's not my circus and these are not my monkeys, get off my blog" for an answer and just left.
So that, I guess, is your answer to where all the divisiveness is coming from: One, I refuse to bother being nice to someone who's trying to use me, and two, anyone who champions Trump is championing Neo-Nazis, and I don't agree to disagree or try to get along with Neo-Nazis or anyone who supports them.
... Shit, is Paradox07 bothering you about this? I mean, I'm pretty sure she approached me because I used to post on the Keep, stopped, and kept posting Medieval content on my personal site, which let her hope I'd had some sort of conflict at the Keep-- that all applies to you as much as it does me, with the added bonus of you actually having had an administrative issue over there. If my post here is causing you trouble on your site, I'm really sorry.
That was unexpected
Date: 2017-01-20 04:23 am (UTC)I keep entertaining this hope that at the opening of the inauguration ceremony tomorrow, Ashton Kutcher is going to pop out of the woodwork and say “That’s right, America! You just got Punk’d!”
I should have probably phrased my preface more carefully. I’m completely aware of the U.S. political situation. I’ve read what the pundits are predicting will happen regarding the Trump/Pence administration. I read about it on Facebook on the daily. My dyed-in-the-wool shitkicker Republican cousins back in Colorado are constantly informing me how Trump will make America great again, when they actually take five minutes to stop turning cartwheels.
I know full well what they’re speculating could possibly happen, maybe, down the road, to small businesses, to the LGBT community, to Muslim Americans, to people of color and so on. I just don’t care. My government is seriously effed up, and it has an immediate and catastrophic effect on me and everyone I know. While U.S.ians are worried about what might happen to the Affordable Care Act in six months, I’m worried about where I’m going to get fuel to put in my tank so I can drive to work tomorrow. So yeah. I understand. I really do. And I sympathize. But Mexico has bigger problems.
I’m sorry if that sounds harsh. Back to the original conversation.
I think that at the time when Paradox07 made her post, she was still upset over having been banned. (The original post is on 13 Nov 2016, about a day after the “banishment”) I don’t think that at that time she’d had sufficient time to fully absorb what had happened and type up a moderated response. I’m not justifying her actions, just trying to provide some context. I think that the strong language she used to disparage Sunni was a projection of how extremely torqued off she was. I don’t know her much better than you do, but if I had to guess her age, I’d guess she’s fairly young; this is kind of the go-to response for Millennials.
On the other hand, I understand how it might be disconcerting when a virtual unknown comes into your personal space and begins hurling insults toward a Simmer who you’ve had positive discourse with in the past. If you’re trying to find a sympathetic audience, this probably isn’t the best way to go about it.
That said, to the neutral observer the whole escalated extremely quickly. Here, we teach our kids "Cuenta hasta diez (Count to ten)." Don't post when you're upset. Sleep on it, and when you're calm, try to type out a measured response. Just my two cents.
I’m sorry. I’m wicked tired and I’m starting to ramble. Paradox07 did make a similar post on my blog, and I responded to her at length. If you’re interested, it can be found here:
https://blueheavensims.blogspot.mx/p/policy-tou-download-directory-and.html?showComment=1484880475646
I wish I could focus long enough to elaborate a better response. Ophelia is whinging on because she’s hungry, so for now I’ll sign off.
Re: That was unexpected
Date: 2017-01-20 09:06 am (UTC)I think you may be giving Paradox07 too much benefit of the doubt by writing her initial post off as just being a rant from a torqued-off millennial. If she wanted to vent, she could have vented on her own blog (blogs are free, she could have made one if she didn't have one already), or sought out one person at a time and gone 'you wouldn't believe what just happened to me!' Instead, she sought out at least two people she knew had once been active at the Keep but no longer were, and posted long, almost identical diatribes to their blogs. And I think we've both got pretty good viewership-- you mention you've got daily pageviews close to 10K in the thread you linked, and according to Mediafire I've had just over a million total downloads.
She told us to copy and paste her original message to everyone we knew, even people who were still members of the Keep. With your distaste for forum drama, you know what doing her that favor would've looked like; so do I. My gut tells me that Paradox07 wanted-- might still want-- that kerfuffle to happen, and she reached out to both of us in an effort to increase the potential scale.
I just don't see her posts as being purely thoughtless anger. I can't. I respect that you're engaging with her on your own blog and I wish you well with that-- you're a bigger person than I am there-- but for me even her first post raised enough red flags to make a parachute. I could've taken a higher road in how I chose to deal with Paradox07 myself, I admit that, but I'm not under any obligation to be nice to people who open with vicious personal attacks, whether they're against me or not.
Re: That was unexpected
Date: 2017-01-21 04:09 pm (UTC)I actually didn’t mind the previous response. I followed the links, and learned a thing or two. When I first came here (Chihuahua), I was in my mid-20s and really passionate about politics as well. But dealing with the same bullshit and corruption, day after day, year after year, wears on a person. I’m glad you’re engaged and informed. Good on you.
You’re right, of course, and I really couldn’t say what Paradox07 hoped to accomplish by posting here. I’ve done my level best to reason with her, but I don’t think I’m getting through. I understand why she’s angry; I was angry when my posts got taken down, too. I don’t know what she hopes to accomplish by leveling these pretty-much-baseless accusations on the personal spaces of Simmers she doesn’t really know. And the onus wasn’t on you to accept her half-assed and insincere apology. Acceptance of the apology is the prerogative of the transgressed, not the absolute right of the transgressor.
I’ve suggested to her several times that she channel her energy into something more positive, such as setting up her own blog/website/personal space. I sincerely hope she does so, and in doing so is able to overcome the trauma of being banished.
I guess my original intent when responding was to try to mend the fence (even though I’m under no obligation to do so). But there comes a time when you have to say “Fuck it, this fence can’t be mended.” For my part, I’ve been a fan for a long time and still am, and I have immense respect for your talent. Enjoy your weekend.
Re: That was unexpected
Date: 2017-01-23 12:55 pm (UTC)I can understand being angry at the ban. She's got a right to her anger, it's fine that she was angry. She handled it poorly, though, and it worries me that she's still this angry even two months after the ban.
Sorry the metaphorical fence to mend turned out to be a burned bridge instead? And I'm deeply sorry about my initial, scattered-ass post, it was terrible and I can see why it would have worried you. You've got my respect as a creator, too-- I do hope to have some actual new content up before too long.