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Still On Hiatus but about Missing Hairs

I have gotten your comments and PMs, everybody, but I'm in the 'crunch time' portion of my Usual Summer Simming Hiatus-- my big miniature show is next weekend and the prep is extra-"fun" this year what with my sister, her husband, their toddler, their pets, and all their stuff moved in and underfoot. So, blanket response to everything about missing hairs:

1. The MT Cakestore hairs get pulled down a LOT, I don't know why.
2. Yes, I have backups. I have triple backups. I have a passport drive full of backups.
3. I'll fix the links but I don't have time to do so right now.
4. Yes, I probably should switch to Sims File Share.
5. Yes, if you have your own copies of hairs people are looking for, feel free to share them while Mediafire is being Mediafire.
6. No, further comments as to which files are down probably will not help.

I hate to sound prickly but I'm on hiatus, I will be on hiatus until at least the middle of September and possibly until early October, the way things are going. I never have time to Sim in the summer and this year hasn't been a great year for 'things Hat can do for fun' since February.

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I look forward to you coming back to the community, but RL takes precedence. Don't stress over sims. Survive your house full & shows, then consider spending time with us. We'll survive. :) I hope your shows go well & life calms down for you. Take care.
- quiltlover

I'm so glad you're still around! I lost all my discs ages ago so when EA gave out the UC, I went on a download binge and have hundreds of your hairs sitting on my external. I just wanted to tell you that I absolutely love your hairs and how you've got them all binned and include all the different colors. I hope to eventually learn to do recolors myself, but it's been awhile since I did TS2 modding.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your hiatus and that your miniature show went well!

Hat, I know you don't know me, but I know you and that you used to be involved with the Plumbob Keep. My name on the keep was Paradox 07. I need your help with something.

I've been banished from the site, and I'm determined not to let anyone else suffer Sunni's cruelty in silence anymore. Please, if you have friends in the Sims 2 Community, spread the word. I have this message to post:

This comes from the voice of yet another of despot Sunni's casualties. It is as of now that I am on her banished list, and I refuse to let any more people suffer her wrath in silence.

I post this not for myself, but to all who associate themselves with the Plumbob Keep. Do not, under any circumstances, get involved with that site, or its people. You will only experience heartbreak in the future down the road unless you do exactly what their "queen" says. She is a selfish, lazy, vindictive webmaster who only cares about herself, manipulates others to do her bidding, and she gets nasty with anyone who tries thinking outside her little box. Sunni loves control, and despises those who are not followers.

She's also getting tired of the site, and can't stand the fact that many who originally made it fun have moved on to other things. One of her banished also embarrassed her in public and made other people want to leave, which has also contributed to the site's death spiral.

She wants to be free of it, but can't bear the idea of having someone else in charge. She's a control freak. A real leader knows when to step down. She was once a good, if mostly absent leader 5 years ago, but not anymore.

She's also trying to find reasons to get rid of people. She didn't like me because I don't think along the same lines she does, and she was looking for an excuse to be rid of me. I had no idea what kind of person she was until I spoke to someone who had also suffered her wrath.

Again, do not put any trust to Sunni, do not associate with her or her friends, do not donate to that site (she owes me $5) or her Patreon, and do not, under any circumstances, try to go back as someone else. Her site can read IP addresses, so there's no point in trying to spy on her.

You need to tell everyone out there about this. Copy and paste this warning and send it to everyone you know, including people still part of the Keep. You will be doing a lot of innocent people a favor.

Indeed I do not know you, Paradox 07, and because of that, and because I've known Sunni basically since I started creating for Sims, I need you to understand the massive benefit of the doubt I'm granting you when I say, where are your receipts?

I mean, the first thing you should know is that I didn't quit Plumb Bob Keep; I lurk there, because I have a mental illness that gives me a very low limit to how thin I can spread myself socially, and despite the thematic content, I chose Garden of Shadows as my message board of choice because I felt a better overall fit in personality with the userbase there. I had, and currently have, no personal beef with Sunni herself.

Second, I'm a little bit completely aghast that this week of all weeks is the week you pick to imply a website moderator is a despot. I'm trying very hard not to hold your timing against you, but again, I'm a mentally ill American queer. Your timing super sucks, especially since you either picked the most recent post on my blog and just didn't read it, or read that as of my last blog entry I haven't yet ended my hiatus, and decided your chain letter couldn't wait for me to have the spoons to rejoin the Simming community officially.

If you deign to respond to me, I expect an apology about the timing.

And yes, this is me inviting a response, because I'm very curious about those receipts.

Specifics. Links. Screenshots. If you have the tea, as the kids these days say, spill that tea.

Because let me tell you, your chain letter sounds a lot like you broke rules repeatedly, got yourself banned, met up with someone else who broke rules and got banned, tried to sockpuppet your way back onto Sunni's forum that she literally owns, found out about the internet's second most basic level of security, and are now trying to stir up a bullying campaign against Sunni.

If that's your intention, that's not starting here.

If, on the other hand, something is legitimately up with Sunni, then I require specifics. I spent ten years in a (non-Sims) friendship that had to end, messily, before I could see that it was in fact super-toxic, so I'm not dismissing you out of hand. Prove it-- tell me what she did, specifically what she did, besides ban you. Tell me what she said. Links, screenshots, and specific details; since I've known Sunni for basically seven years, the burden of proof is on you.

If you can't do more than insist, the week Donald Trump became America's president-elect, that a woman in a position of moderate power is a selfish, lazy, vindictive, manipulative, nasty, control-freak despot, then you are free to leave my blog and not return. I can see your IP address, too.

I also expect an apology for the ableist language-- we all have control issues here in the Sims Community, or we wouldn't be so invested in a game that, with a little fiddling, gives us near complete control over everything.

The ball is in your court now: apologies and receipts, or the conversation ends.

Sorry to use your blog for this Hat, I apologize first and foremost for that but this is something that isn't going to continue. Fractured Moonlight here. Paradox was banned for racially and culturally inappropriate and insensitive comments in threads and chat boxes, and members repeatedly sending complaints to mods about it, not because "Sunni doesn't like you". I was the one who banned you from the chat box first, and if you left it alone things would have been fine and you would still be on the forum, but you ran to other mods, started trash talking without facts, and us mods took it then to Sunni. We discussed things, we decided it was best for you to go so you stop causing offense to other members. Whether we like you or not is not an issue. Now stop being butt hurt and learn to control the remarks that form in your head before you apply them to any written form.

Frac, you don't have anything to apologize for-- I know perfectly well you can't be expected to monitor PBK members' behavior off-site, and Paradox isn't actually a member anymore. I don't know how they decided my blog was the place to turn for support, but I think I accidentally revealed myself as being in favor of following a website's rules right before I exposed my dedication to cutting bigotry out of my thoughts and vocabulary (and social circle). I don't think they'll be back.

First off, My Lady Hat, I deeply apologize for the timing of my message. (I am a "she," by the way). That was no chain letter. It was a warning bulletin. I was banished on the 12th, just 3 days after the election. I understand that a lot of people out there on both sides were put through a lot of stress during this time. I did not know about your condition or what state of mind you were in, so there was no way I could have known how you would react to my post. I didn't even know you had replied, because I forgot that I never sent you my e-mail.

I wasn't banished for bigotry or being racist. I was banished because I went to Stephanie's website and learned some very unflattering things about Sunni. You can read the story here for yourself: http://stephsimail.wixsite.com/proudlybanished

I'm not going to force you to believe or not believe what she says, but I know that you are at least curious. Use your own judgement when reading this. I made the mistake of trusting someone I shouldn't have at the Keep, telling them my reaction to the story, and they betrayed me. Now if you ask Stephanie, she really does have receipts to back it up. All I've got are angry PMs that I managed to snatch before being thrown off. Stephanie is not a rule-breaker. She is a kind and decent person, and she's well-known in the Sims community. If anyone is to accuse her of being a troll or a monster, that person is lying.

I came to you because I thought you might understand. You seemed like a nice, talented, decent person with a wicked sense of humor. I thought perhaps, seeing as you're part of this community and have contributed so much, you'd understand what kind of a shock and cruel jolt it is when someone cuts you off from that. Your hairs and clothes are on my Pinterest boards: https://www.pinterest.com/ladyaqua7351/ Why would they be on there if I did not admire your work? It's not flattery, I'm just being honest.

I've met some other people who were banished too, people who were good, honest modders and found out things about Sunni that she would prefer the Sims community not know about her. She even banished their friends to keep them quiet. She banished Stephanie's husband, just because he was married to her. He barely said anything, and did nothing to earn that.

Please consider that when you read this. I'm no bully. In fact, hardly anyone has listened to me, save for those who also have been banished. It is Sunni and her friends who bullied ME.

I know you have worked with her for who knows how long, but how well do you know her really? Have you actually lived with her? Have you spoken to those close to her? How well do you really know her? I got to know her more than I liked, and this was after years of being ignored.

If you choose not to listen, to keep believing I'm a liar and a rule-breaker who deserved what she got, then I'll leave you alone. I won't waste time with someone who refuses to believe. But if you do, I'll let you learn more.

I can only imagine how often you must have refreshed your email and checked your spam filter, wondering if I'd ever reply to you, especially since it took you two months to see if I'd responded in the same format you chose. You still haven't left your email, but I don't know you, so I'm not having a conversation with you where no one else can see it.

You also didn't bring receipts, not so much as a 'well, SHE said, then I said.' You want me to put in the effort to verify vague claims you're making, rather than making a convincing argument yourself. And as for why I ask for proof, for even anecdotal evidence? You came into my space and called another woman cruel, wrathful, selfish, lazy, vindictive, manipulative, nasty, untrustworthy, and a control freak. I am not the sort of person who sees that laundry list of insults and goes "Oh dear! Well if you say so it must be true." You want me to believe all that crap, ableism aside, then you have to prove it.

I honestly thought you'd taken one look at my reply, figured out that you weren't going to get your validation here, and weren't coming back. I was not sad.

This is not my circus. These are not my monkeys.

Sunni and I are not what you'd call bosom companions. We've talked many times, almost always about Sims, because we've been in similar circles of the same community for the last seven and a half years. I think maybe she offered well-wishes when my cat was sick, or later condolences after she died. Neither of us knows the other particularly well; I know Sunni primarily through her body of work and what posts of hers I've read, and she knows me basically the same way. I'm emotionally closer to the waitstaff at my favorite restaurant than I am with Sunni, and she only knows as much about me as literally anyone else who reads this blog.

I have no illusions as to why you chose to contact me here rather than on Garden of Shadows or Mod the Sims. There are no moderators here, no one to buffer between you and me, and you can make your emotional appeals without fear of modly reprisal-- I'm the sole owner and operator of this blog, responsible for its content and policing its comments, and if you approach me here I have to deal with you myself.

So this is me dealing with you myself.

I don't care that you got banned from Plumb Bob Keep. I don't care that Stephanie got banned, or that Sophie-David got banned. I don't care what Sunni does on her own website, because it's her own website, and anyone unhappy at the Keep has the ability to make their own website. Not my circus, not my monkeys.

I don't believe you about why you got banned, because your attempts at emotional manipulation are laughably transparent. You're trying to frame the circumstances of your ban as a tantalizing mystery, a secret you're offering to let me in on-- a secret you expect me to want to be in on. You want me to sympathize with you, with Stephanie, with Sophie-David, before you'll go into any kind of detail about your version of events. It's a transparent grab for conversational high ground, to get me to make an emotional investment before hearing "facts" that you don't seem likely to be able to spin in your favor otherwise. You're even hedging your bets by saying you "trusted the wrong person" but refusing to state that person's name. Heaven forbid you risk me being on speaking terms with them, able to verify your claims.

I'm not falling for it. If you had tea you'd spill it. You don't want to tell me anything concrete until you're sure I'll be on your side-- which probably means you don't actually believe you were in the right.

You are over-reacting to being banned from a messageboard. Stephanie is over-reacting to being banned from a messageboard by an order of magnitude.

Your persistent use of pseudo-Medieval language (I am not your lady and 'banished' is a cutesy term for 'permanently banned' that only the Keep uses) is creeping me the fuck out. This is not a roleplay blog.

Your attempted apology was incomplete, insincere, half-assed, padded with false equivalencies, and I don't believe you're actually sorry you rode in here on Trump's coattails and used a dehumanizing term for someone with control issues, you're just sorry I got mad at you for it. Apology not accepted.

Keep your monkeys off my blog.

Edited (Edited for clarity and to remind Paradox07 of the laundry list of insults they leveled against Sunni) 2017-01-18 04:32 (UTC)

I actually didn't know you had replied. I didn't find out until yesterday, when I was googling something else. I have been in contact with better quality people than you. Do not expect me to come back to this snake pit, for all I have found is not a high-quality Sims modder, but a hateful and snarling bulldog.

Forgive me for assuming you were a nice, understanding, and thoughtful person. You just proved that you aren't and showed a shining example as to why you and Sunni get along so well. You two would be peas in a pod.

You actually think I'm some kind of conniving, manipulative schemer? What kind of crap have your friends been feeding you? Manipula-loops? I'd rather DIE than run that POS kingdom of Sunni's. And she doesn't need my help in killing the place, she's doing that all by herself by banishing so many people. A lot of people have noticed the site has been slowly imploding in on itself, and the only place your friend needs to look to see who's responsible for that is the mirror and her two minions, Fractured Moonlight and Celestial Spider.

I didn't know I could talk to you on GoS or MTS2. I don't fear Moderators of those places, considering they are not as conniving and selfish as the people at the Cursed Keep.

I hope you eventually learn what is driving that hate inside you, and seek professional help in dealing with it before something bad happens to you.

I've actually stayed away from mentioning politics directly, but since these are my last words on this shit site, I'll make it perfectly clear that I take great pleasure in watching REAL AMERICANS thwart your jack-ass party's attempts at a communist, leftist coup and crushing America underfoot. I'm GLAD your bitch queen Hillary didn't win, and that Trump's going to save our nation. It's amazing how childish and vicious people like you can get when your own evil candidate doesn't win an election they so THOUGHT was in the bag. It's payback after what your false god on Capitol hill did to the rest of America, selling us down the river like that for 8 years. You didn't see me throwing childish tantrums after the '08 and '12 elections. I stewed quietly for a bit and then got along with my life. And that is exactly what I'm going to do now, rather than waste it on a pathetic creep like you.

Keep throwing poo, little monkey. It's not gonna change anything, and I'm gonna take great pleasure in watching President Trump get sworn in on Friday.

It's astonishing to learn that the almighty Hat is NOT so almighty, and I greatly pity you.

Good luck, and go pound sand.

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